Saturday, September 13, 2008
Reconciliation - Naivete?
This week in a small discussion group, I asked a question in reference to a chapter in our study book of the last few months - Daily Bread, Holy Meal by Samuel Torvend. The chapter is entitled, "Peace and Reconciliation."
I asked the following question - "Without playing political cards or views, do you think that if our president and his cabinet approached America's perceived or real enemies with a policy of peace and reconciliation that our country would be viewed as naive in its policy making, naive in its trust of its fellow world leaders, weaker, stronger, or just plain stupid? An animated conversation followed. The consensus, regrettably, was that it would be suicide and a sign of weakness to pursue a course of unquestioned reconciliation among nations.
World matters settled - I mean, really, it's so simple to solve complex issues -
we switched into the favorite subject of us all, me, me, me, I, I, I! It is all about us isn't it....or so it would seem. I do digress!
But what about reconciliation and peace in our own lives? In the first place, do we ever seek reconciliation for known and unknown grievances that we may or may not have meant to commit or be entangled in? If we, ourselves, are willing to forgive and forget a grievance we have suffered or the hurt we have knowingly or unknowingly placed upon another person, can we then stand up against the questioning that may come from our closest friends and loved ones....meaning even though we are willing to forget and forgive, are our beloveds perhaps not so willing to do the same, even though it is our reconciliation decision? Do they want us to hold the grudge still? Do they not want to chastise us for forgiving such harm that has been done to us? What is that all about?
Can you think of a reconciliation situation that should be a part of your life but is not due to pride, hurt, sorrow, or just plain stubbornness? Could or would you seek reconciliation if no person but you and the "other" were the only persons to know of the situation? Can you envision how the reconciliation would give you peace as well as peace to the wounder or the wounded, as the case may be? Have you ever sought reconciliation and found the other party knew of no reason that you felt estranged from them?
We are such complex beings. Envisioning change often brings it to pass. Maybe you and I both have small hurts that could be healed if only we examined the "happening" and realized it was truly a figment of our imagination. Maybe just reconciling our hurt privately in prayer would bring a huge relief to an otherwise uncomfortable relationship. Maybe....